Why did I create this website?
Because so few people know what questions to ask, one will never actually get to know anyone. I am taking this a little bit more seriously than everybody else because I am very interested in finding the right one. I have found thousands of the wrong one the conventional ways and they just don't work. It seems to be a complete waste of time. And at the rate we are communicating, it will take a thousand years to find the right person. So I decided to put down all the things that are on the minds of women. I've had my people study it to make sure I answered the right questions and you too can also answer these questions. Whether we become an item or not you can copy these questions and use them on your other potential mates. They will also know that you are more serious by the questions that you ask. Certainly I don't know everything it's impossible to do that. Finding a woman is like chasing smoke, however I remain optimistic that in the end I will find the one or the one will find me because sometimes when something is right underneath your nose, you don't see it.
Please enjoy the website. I tried to make it somewhat amusing I hope you also find that way. Everything I have done in my life has always been different than the norm. I am nothing like anybody you have ever heard of or have ever met. I am not like everybody else. I also have lots of business and personal references as well because I was in business in Canada most of my life and I have hundreds of thousands of happy customers. Most of the people you will meet here or on any dating site, might be lonely, or depressed, or unsuccessful, or extremely boring, give you fake information to win your hand. Everythihg about who I am and what I will write back to you will always be 100% true.
One more thing. On most of the websites that I have joined, I have asked women many questions and few answered any. Is getting to know you some kind of secret? If you hold everything under your umbrella, then how will you ever meet anybody? How will you ever learn to trust anybody and how can they ever learn to trust you, if you do not give up some information about yourself?
What am I looking for?
Hmmm A plane? No, a Computer... no it's not that.
Can you guess?
If you guessed someone like you, you guessed right!
A woman, to become my best friend, then girlfriend and if it develops into something more, I welcome it. If we wake up from a dream and it is 3 years later and we are talking about moving in together, then we have reached something called a long term relationship. However we will only we will only know that, after years have past and yes... I welcome that too.
Les, what business are you in?
A long time ago I developed software that saved me 177 days worth of time a year and because I was unable to manage that time efficiently I had my programmers design another program to manage that time. Now this might be a little bit hard for you to grasp but I will try to let you into my world slowly so that you can see what I did with this time and I think this would impress you or impress anybody for that matter. With the time that I saved I poured that back into business but I also poured it into my social life with my friends, I did lots of travelling, I invented many things that have changed the world and made it a better place. The things that I created for myself which became bigger than myself is the software that I designed for small business to make their lives easier and more efficient. Even the government of Canada endorsed my products because they were so easy to use that almost a chicken could figure out how to run a small business. The spinoffs of these things which I created was also an online appointment system which everybody wants because it's so easy to use. So I do more than just one thing but I am in the process of amalgamating everything into one so one website will manage everything so that eventually when I retire, I won't have to deal with anything and I will still have an income coming in. So in a nutshell...
I make on-Line appointment software which eliminates
TELEPHONE TAG
If you want to talk to me as specific time on A specific day which is convenient to you, and you would like to speak to me on
Skype (HungarianHandyman) all skype to Skype calls are free and it is secure for both of us
TELEGRAM (Leslie) is a great alternative to Whats app, because you do not have to show me your telephone number
I have been putting people on the same page for more than 30 years. This one will reqire an email address but the rest of th information you can just make up. I do not need to know where you live and your phone number so just put nonsense in there.
MY SKYPE ADDRESS IS
HungarianHandyman
MY TELEGRAM MESSENGER HANDLE IS
Leslie
LET'S DANCE
I have been sitting in a camping parking lot, for the past 3 months in France
And I have fixed most of the things I came here to fix on my motorhome , myself and with the help of the guy next to me who has the sme type of Motor home. He also has a background in electronics.
This is what it looks like and listen to my voice too
Pop, Classical, Country (for slow romantic songs), Movies, Theatre, Dancing,
Animals, The Arts, The Outdoors, DIY/Crafts, Restaurants, Pubs/Clubs, Computers,
Internet, Cooking,
Travelling
and Moral
and green Issues
My Fench part-time secretary, went out and polled 200 women on the street to find out what's on the mind of women these days. I didn't tell her to go out and do that, but she took it upon herself to find out what the facts really are and to help me better. If she was not married I would go after her myself. I answered then below, but you could also answer them.
What is your favorite quote?
What we do in life echos in Eternity
Something you've never been good at?
Bowling, pool, snooker and Welding
If you could make a wish what would it be?
Find one woman who will love me unconditionally.
I MADE A SOLAR TRAILR FOR MY ELECTRIC CAR IN 2014 IN EUROPE
What was the most difficult period of your life?
When I married a woman who lied to me about many things and I only found out about the truth of these things after I was married. She deliberately held these things back because she knew that if I knew, I would not have married her. In other words she was so in love with me that she lied just to get me. Working through all of these things to figure out what I was going to do about them was the hardest challenge I've ever had in my life. I decided to divorce her in the end and was married for a very short period of time. I was very fortunate that I had a contract before I got married and I would never get married again without a contract. You may already have horror stories like this of your own but I don't ever want to go through this again.
When I announced, to
my parents, that I was getting married, the first thing that came out of
my dads mouth was: "call the lawyers." And although I thought that was a
heartless comment at the time, as usual the guy was always right.
BEFORE WE Continue,
Important things you must know about me:
I am a
British subject and a Canadian citizen and was born in Canada and lived there
most of my life. I came here to Europe eight years ago, sold my house in Canada
and closed
my business,
to help my aging father who WAS 91 at that time. I handled my father's
affairs, in Hungary until he died almost 2 yrs. ago. I thought
that after he died I would return Canada because I don't really have anything
here for me anymore. I've learned to love Hungary because I have made some very
good friends there and the medical system for me is much better there than in
Canada or anywhere else I have seen in Europe. I pay 300 Canadian a year for
health insurance which covers all of the EU as well, and it pays for 100% of my
dental and medical and 80% of any meds. So I'm happy that I have such a
system that I can rely on even though Hungary is backwards in many ways.
I joined eHarmony & plenty of fish and other dating websites to try to find
myself an English-speaking woman because I am more English-speaking than I will
ever be Hungarian. Just because my parents were Hungarian doesn't necessarily
make me Hungarian even though I already have citizenship and Hungary because of
that.
So now we can continue. Please ask
questions because this is why we are here.
What is your favorite quote?
What we do in life echos in Eternity it is also my families' quote.
Something you've never been good at?
Bowling, pool, snooker and Welding
If you could make a wish what would it be?
Find one woman who will love me unconditionally.
I MADE A SOLAR TRAILR FOR MY ELECTRIC CAR IN 2014 IN EUROPE
What kills love can make the most beautiful woman
the ugliest?
When she lies :(
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes, But only on the street not necessarily the Internet because so many people are fraudulent there putting up pictures of themselves from 10 years ago and things like that trying to deceive man into liking them. Love at first sight is not what it used to be.
What always puts you in a good mood?
Music and riding my bicycle. Because I have a musical bicycle so I can get both done at the same time.
What always makes you
angry?
People who throw
garbage on the ground or out their car windows.
Men who do not respect equality for women
People who are unkind to animals
Polluters
Companies who dump insecticides and other chemicals
into our rivers and streams.
Social injustice
What mistake will you never do again?
Never get involved with a woman that I don't completely know. And I may have to investigate the truth to make sure there are no lies.
If you have a dark past, just tell me about it, because of it comes out as a surprise later on it won't be good. Trying to hide the truth from anybody even though it will cause embarrassment is better told in advance then found out by accident later. Once you break the trust between two people just once, how can you trust them again?
If you could change one thing in your life, what
would it be?
Nothing, I am the man I am because I've made mistakes, and I've been successful, and I have a good circle of friends in Canada and in Europe who actually care about me. There is nothing I would want to change I only have one regret in my life. And that you will have to find out about.
Do you believe in love?
I used to. But after being on the Internet for the last three months I am not so sure. Perhaps one day I will need a woman who will convince me that it still exists.
What's your favorite song?
I am a big suck which
means that I love romantic songs but more so if I have a woman in my arms, while
dancing to them.
What is
your biggest dream ?
What kind of Vehicle do you drive?
Do you earn a good living?
I am comfortably retired and I did earn well. Now I want to enjoy my life and find my significant other to enjoy it together with her.
PLEASE ANSWER some of THESE SAME QUESTIONS and send them back to me on the site where we met.
I am a British subject, a Canadian born citizen. My father was an engineer and my mother was a businesswoman. And I was a kid I sometimes came up with ideas for my father to create things and together, when we were able to work together, built some pretty fantastic things.
Here is just one of them. Now the inventor doesn't make all the box and the engineer doesn't make all the bucks either is the guy who owns the factory and sells the goods all over the world but without the team of the creator and the designer the product never becomes reality. If my dad was a chef, or fireman or a doctor, these things never would have come to light. So my life basically a calamity of lucky things that just happened to work together.
ARTICLE TRANSLATED INTO ENGLISH: Hey Les why are you in France? Well I came
to France for two reasons. Before the virus struck I went to Italy first to cut
a deal with the company to sell their garbage compactors for motorhomes and
yachts because garbage is a real problem in people don't know what to do with
it. So I found the smallest car packed garbage compactor in the world and an
Italian company was making it and I went to visit them bought a sample, drove to
France because I wanted to get the warranty repairs done on my motorhome and
also to visit a castle that my family lived in approximately 970 years ago.
While
here, I met with the company who was going to do the warranty repairs they told
me I need to come back in two months and I should park at such a location. So I
met with them went through the list agreed on what was going to be done, went to
the parking lot which was closed and then asked the police where I could park
and they took me to the present place where I am now. Four days later the
country closed down military role then in some places and told us that we must
stay. And I said that's fine but what are we going to do for power and
electricity and they were gracious enough to run power to our vehicles. I don't
know if it was because I was Canadian or not but maybe that had something to do
with it.
While I was here and still am now, they wrote an article about me so now I have
proof I'm here. Where's anybody can say anything but the beautiful thing about
everything that I am telling you
it is all true
.
Here is the English translation of the article:
Confined since March, camper van
enthusiasts have settled in the Juign� area. The singularity of the situation is
there!
In addition to a couple of
retirees of Angevin origin (Bernard and Catherine), who have returned to their
land,
one can rub shoulders with
a Chinese family of whom one wonders how it crossed the Hexagon in the middle of
confinement
and a Canadian
fanatic who worth the detour. Portable by hand with supporting translation, it
tells its story with the
help of
his new friend Bernard. This engineer finds everything has filed many patents
(he would be the creator of the
mechanical arms that lift our garbage cans). He also composes and writes songs
which he broadcasts on the internet.
He recently went to Hungary when his father died. "Then I crossed
Europe," he continues. I came to Anjou for genealogical research.
Indeed, it is likely that I come from a
blue blood family. As a result, I plan to scour the local castles in order to
further my research.
Leslie Bubik
also created a machine (see photo) powered by solar panels. Several pages would
not be enough to tell his story.
His motorhome is so large that it can hold a car. During these few weeks,
Bernard, the Angevin, and Leslie, the Canadian,
conversed like two old friends, undoubtedly linking feelings that
were built during this unusual period.
And here's the
article itself. (below) And below that the actual newspaper
clipping
I am fun
ny
and can make anyone laugh, and take it as a challenge if they do not.
I am Adventurous, Persistent, Mature but not too mature, Honest,
and I know how to "tust a woman," I'm Clean, always take of initiative of
things, have a very open mind and can be inspiring, clever compassionate. I also
respect women. I was raised by one who had honour And integrity.
I lost my mom in 2005 (I miss her all the time) and my dad 2019. Now I'm pretty much free to go anywhere I want and that's one of the reasons why I bought a newer motorhome so that I could go and visit anybody who I hit it off with. I'm not talking to 500 women at the same time. I'm not talking to any two exchanges of questions, is not talking.
If something becomes a little bit more serious, then , I will ust talk to her. But none so far, the and I will continue searching because I want to be able to give the woman I'm interested in 100% of my attention.
So far, it has not happened because I find most people are not consistent. They ask a few questions and then they're gone I really don't know why but I have a lot to offer because I'm also a Royal Prince as well. And if someone actually reads this they will see that but no one ever reads down this far for whatever strange reason because they think they know me so well already. Nobody knows me here well at all and well enough. I am a happy carefree soul who loved live and still do. Probably because I don't have any debt.
What do I do?
I save people time by making "idiot proof" Online appointment systems putting two people on the same page 24/7/365. I have partnered with an Indian company lately and I will pursue this but I don't have to pursue it from any particular country so if you're the type of person that doesn't have to be glued down to any particular place then we can go travelling together eventually or if you're glued down to a particular place that eventually I will come there and we can date and then eventually if there's chemistry and it keeps going and I will rent a house in the area and then after a couple of years or so if it's still going strong that I will buy a house in the area. We will just have to see how things unfold.
Email, texting, chating, skyping, and telephone tag wastes your valuable time.
Most people waste between 3 to 5 hours a day getting nothing accomplished. Let's select 3
3 hrs./day is 1095 hrs./year which is almost 137 work days/year (based on an 8 hr. work day)
Scary isn't it?
Because my own software saves me so much time, I'm able to dabble in things that most people cannot. For example: The motorhome below is a modification of mine. Although you cannot see it, because it was not changed aesthetically, but instead, technologically.
This is my Prototype Mobile office and home, as I was building a proven service system which I used in Canada for 25 years. I was stuck in France on my way to England.
Although my base is in Hungary and I have some properties there and a car, I only go there to pay my bills. I have rented out my places because I don't need to sit there and stare at four walls because my business is web-based. So I can travel all around Europe and see amazing sites and eventually find myself a woman. I can go and visit her wherever she may be. So location does not matter.
I can stay As long as necessary, if the chemistry is right, I will stay. But we need to communicate online first. Finding a someone I can trust, is an important thing for me. I also want to show her she can trust me.
I am a dreamer, designer + builder...
I want a woman who will become my best friend first and eventually full-time girlfriend and eventually move in together, if that is the direction it goes. Marriage is not off the table however, a contract most likely will have to be created. I will cross that bridge when I get to it. I think that it is necessary for everything to be discussed in detail as to what direction we want this to go. I have a very open mind so I can and I am also very accommodating. I am also a very generous man with a big heart however I do not want to be taken advantage of either. So in time the truth will always come out. Only time will tell if we stay together forever.
If you would like to ask any questions please do so on the website where we met. Sending me emails or communicating on Skype is not necessary yet until we get to answer some basic questions from each other which nobody seems to ask. So I will ask these questions and if you are serious about finding a real man who will love you and be honest with you then you will answer these questions. I will also be happy to answer any questions you have on the website where we met.
I dream, design + build all kinds of things
I have a valid international drivers Licence
Mopeds to motorcycles, cars, TRUCKS &buses, up to 12 ton + 5 metric ton trailers
Do you own a house? Yes.
Here is the first one I bought in Hungary which has no garden and the inside was not finished. So I finished it .
After finishing the house I sold it because my cousins were stealing from me and the only reason why I bought that mill in that town was because I knew somebody I thought I could trust. I don't speak to my relatives anymore in Hungary. In fact, I don't speak too much of anybody, including the Royal side. Which a party occurs every two years and my 600 cousins show up for free food. I have a few close friends only that I have helped in business and I've change their lives and those people feel and honour towards me and not the only reason why I'm still in Europe. I will try to redirect my efforts now from business to a personal life which I deserve and maybe the woman who I find and I can go away for a vacation which I richly deserve. Somewhere in an all-inclusive Type Pl. in Turkey or Spain. If you have any ideas in your please let me know because I really love being here. If your job doesn't give you a month off after going through hell maybe you should quit and work for me. There are many ways that we can make this work but we just have to figure out how that will be..
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Seeing each other in Skype only HungarianHandyman is my handle
I was also well known in Canada, for many of the things that I invented and/or created. Even though this type of bicycle has been around for over 150 years, my recumbent (BELOW) is special in that is fully suspended and I figured out how to make it stable when it is fully suspended. It was also filled with all kinds of electronics. So below you see an interview which was done in 2010 in New York City when I was invited by the mayor to show my bicycle off at their bike race.
MY SKYPE HANDLE IS Hungarianhandyman
Select 3 questions from the list below,
so we can start some information flow or come up with three or more of your own questions.
WORK
1. Are you working on your chosen field?
2. How many hours a week do you work?
3. What does your job entail? (For example, do you often travel for business,
work at home, performs dangerous tasks?)
4. What is your dream job?
5. Have you ever been called a workaholic?
6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
7. Have you ever been fired?
8. Have you ever quit a job suddenly? Have you changed jobs a lot?
9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?
10. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
AS A KID I HAD THE FIRM CONVICTION THAT�
I thought everybody could dream stuff up in their head go out into the garage and build it. I don't even know if it has anything to do with the fact that my dad was an engineer. But but I had no formal engineering training yet I was able to create some amazing things together with my dead. So I am really lucky in a way and very unlucky in other ways and the fact that I couldn't understand why none of my friends growing up as a kid didn't understand the concepts that I did.?
How about you?
Why haven't you participated in my communication experiment? Don't you want me to get to know you as well as I am trying to get you to know me?
How do you communicate with men?
When is the last time you had a serious conversation with a man? When did
you split up with her significant other?
Were you married or just living
together?
Why haven't you provided this information before?
What was the
reason you split up?
Have you never asked these questions before or have ever
seen them??
How do you expect to meet somebody I know about them if you don't
ask questions?
HOME
11. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
12. Do you prefer urban, suburban, or rural settings?
13. Is it important to have your own private home, or do you prefer apartment or
condo living, with a management company responsible for the maintenance? Are you
a do-it yourselfer, or would you rather hire professionals? Do you prefer to
clean your own home or hire a housekeeper?
14. Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your door always open? What do
you need to feel energized and inspired in your home?
15. Is quiet important in your home, or do you prefer having music or some
background noise most of the time? Is it important to have a TV in the bedroom?
Living room? Kitchen? Do you like to sleep with the TV or radio on?
16. How important is it for you to have a space in your home that is yours
alone?
17. Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
18. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live?
19. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?
20. What is your annual income?
21. Do you pay alimony or child support?
22 Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances?
23. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
24. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition
to joint accounts? Do you feel that bills should be divided based on a
percentage of each person's salary?
25. Who should handle the finances in your family?
26. Do you have significant debts?
27. Do you gamble?
28. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school? Before high school?
29. Have you ever been called cheap or stingy?
30. Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for
pleasure, even if you're on a tight budget?
31. Have you ever used money as a way of controlling a relationship? Has anyone
ever tried to control you with money?
32. Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
RELATIONSHIP HISTORY
33. Have you ever felt deeply insecure in a relationship? Were you able to name
your fear?
34. When was the first time you felt that you were in love with another person?
What happened in that relationship, and how have you come to terms with it?
35. What is the longest relationship you have ever had prior to this one? Why
did it end, and what lesson did you learn?
36. Have you ever been married? If so, are you divorced or widowed? How do you
think you handled the loss?
37. If you have a current partner, do they know of behaviors that you exhibited
in your previous relationship that you're not proud of?
36. Do you believe that past relationships should be left in the past and not
talked about in your current relationship?
39. Do you tend to judge current partners on past relationships?
40. Have you ever sought marriage counseling? What did the experience teach you?
41. Do you have children from previous marriages or non-marital relationships?
What is your relationship with them? How do you see your relationship with them
in the future?
42. Have you ever been engaged to be married but didn't go through with the
wedding?
43. Have you ever had a live-in partner? Why did you choose to live together
instead of marrying? What did your experience teach you about the importance of
marriage and about commitment?
44. Do you harbor fears that the person you love might reject you or fail out of
love with you?
I HAVE A PASSION FOR HELPING PEOPLE and How about you?
Helping people. I started a service business almost 40 years ago on a bet that I could start any kind of a company and make it successful. In those days I was working as a tech in an International bank and all of my friends were techs. One night we went out for drinks. I drank two beers and got a little bit ripped. They were all complaining that they hated their jobs. I have to admit I hated my job too. I became a handyman and loved it left the bank and have been doing it ever since.
SEX
45. What sexual activities do you enjoy the most? Are there specific sexual acts
that make you uncomfortable? Be specific! This is no time to hedge.
46. Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
47. What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
48. Have you ever been sexually abused or assaulted?
48. What was the attitude toward sex in your family? Was it talked about? Who
taught you about sex?
50. Do you use sex to self-medicate? If something upsets you, do you use sex to
try and help you feel better?
51. Have you ever felt forced to have sex to"keep the peace"? Have you ever
forced someone or been told that you forced someone to have sex with you to
"keep the peace"?
52. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?
53. Do you enjoy viewing pornography?
54. How often do you need or expect sex?
55. Have you ever a sexual relationship with a person of the same sex?
56. Has sexual dissatisfaction ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a
relationship?
HEALTH
57. How would you describe the current state of your health?
58. Have you ever had a serious illness? Have you ever had surgery?
58. Do you believe it is a sacred responsibility to take care of yourself? Do
you believe that taking care of your physical and mental health is a part of
honoring your marriage vows?
60. Are there genetic diseases in your family or a history of cancer, heart
disease, or chronic illness?
61. Do you have health insurance? Dental insurance?
62. Do you belong to a gym? If so, how much time do you spend at the gym every
week?
63. Do you play sports or take exercise classes?
64. Have you ever been in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship?
65. Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
66. Have you ever been in a serious accident?
67. Do you take medication?
68. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
P.. Have you ever been treated for a mental disorder?
70. Do you see a therapist?
71. Do you smoke, or have you ever smoked?
72. Do you consider yourself an addictive personality, and have you ever
suffered from an addiction? Have you ever been told you have an addiction
problem, even though you might disagree?
73. How much alcohol do you drink every week?
74. Do you use recreational drugs?
75. Do you have a medical problem that impacts your ability to have a satisfying
sex life (for example, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginal
dryness, drug/alcohol addiction, etc)?
76. Have any of these health problems ever been a factor for you in the breakup
of a relationship?
I WOULD DESCRIBE MY APPEARANCE LIKE THIS...
I was in really good shape I was in relatively good shape I should say before my father died but afterwards I kind of let myself go and then I got invited by a friend of mine in London who said he could whipped me back into shape if I fix everything around his house because I'm also a very good handyman and can fix just about anything. So I told him I would do that and he told me his wife has a massive list and I said it's no problem I can do 90% of those things and on my way to his place I got France and have been here ever since. It was 3 months ago. and I am still here. But now I am getting things repaired on my motorhome some going to stick around for a while.
APPEARANCE
77. How important is it that you always look your best?
78. How important is your spouse's appearance? Do you have strong preferences
about being with a particular physical "type??
70. Are there cosmetic procedures that you regularly undergo?
80. Is weight control important to you? Is your spouse's weight important to
you? What would your reaction be if your partner were to gain a significant
amount of weight?
81. How much money do you spend on clothing every year?
82. Do you worry about getting old? Do you worry about losing your looks?
83. What do you like and dislike about your appearance? When you were a child,
were you often complimented or shamed about your looks?
84. What would your reaction be if your spouse lost a limb? A breast? How would
you handle this loss?
85. Do you feel that you can have good chemistry with someone who is moderately
physically attractive to you, or is a strong physical attraction necessary? Has
physical appearance or "chemistry" ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
PARENTHOOD
86. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
87. Would you feel unfulfilled if you were unable to have children?
88. Who is responsible for birth control? What would you do if there were an
accidental pregnancy before you planned to have children?
88. What is your view of fertility treatments? Adoption? Would you adopt if you
were unable to have a child naturally?
90. What is your view of abortion? Should a husband have an equal say in whether
his wife has an abortion? Have you ever had an abortion?
91. Have you ever given birth to a child or fathered a child who was put up for
adoption?
92. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended
family?
93. Do you believe that a good mother will want to breast-feed her baby? Do you
believe a mother or father should stay at home with a child during the first six
months of life? The first year? Longer?
94. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe
in (time-out, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?
95. Do you believe that children have rights? Do you feel that a child's opinion
should be considered when making family and life decisions, such as moving or
changing schools?
96. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or
spiritual foundation?
97. Should boys be treated the same as girls? Should they have the same rules
for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?
96. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she
was sexually active?
97. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
98. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she
was sexually active?
99. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
100. In a blended family; should birth parents be in charge of making decisions
for their own children?
101. Would you ever consider getting a vasectomy or having your tubes tied? Do
you believe it's your choice, or does your partner have a say?
102. Have differences concerning conception or child-raising ever been a factor
for you in the breakup of a relationship?
MY BEST ATTRIBUTES? WHAT ARE YOURS?
The gift of gab,
I'm very knowledgeable about many things,
I am honest affectionate and have a big heart.
I can take criticism,
When I put my mind to something I make it come true.
I am not a couch potato.
I'm up every morning at 5 AM
I was born in Canada and proud of it
I can communicate effectively and explain my thoughts accurately so that everybody understands
EXTENDED FAMILIES
103. Are you close to your family?
104. Are you or have you ever been alienated from your family?
105. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with family?
106. Have you identified the childhood wound that may have sabotaged your
relationships in the past the deeply imprinted fear that made you want to
escape? How were you most hurt in your family; and who hurt you?
107. How important is it that you and your partner be on good terms with each
other's families?
106. How did your parents settle conflicts when you were a child? Do people in
your family carry long-term grudges?
109. How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?
110. Have unresolved or ongoing family issues ever been a factor for you in the
breakup of a relationship?
I WISH I COULD ... And what do you wish you could.....
A) I have an ability or an energy to heal with my hands. I wish I could do
more of it.
But if I try to make money with it disappears. I know I've tried.
B) I wish I could weld, is one of the few things I can't do and believe me
I know I've tried a few times.
C) I could find a woman who wouldn't asked me for money, or pay her tuition in school, or by her a new iPhone, or pay for car payments,. Strangers asked me this every day. I would never ask a woman I've just met for money or anything.
FRIENDS
FRIENDS
111. Do you have a "best friend"?
112. Do you see a close friend or friends at least once a week? Do you speak to
any of your friends on the phone every day?
113. Are your friendships as Important to you as your life partner is?
114. If your friends need you, are you there for them?
115. Is it important to you for your partner to accept and like your friends?
116. Is it important that you and your partner have friends in common?
117. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with friends?
118. Has a partner ever been responsible for breaking up a friendship? Have
friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
IF I AM IN A BAD MOOD... If you are in a bad mood.....
Why have you not sent to me any information about you?
it's weird that I rarely get into a bad mood but when it does happen, I used to have a friend that had a 40 ft Starr and when I got into a bad mood I would always take it out for sail by myself. In Toronto. I was one of the few people who was allowed to sail their boats into the port and out of the port because I actually knew what I was doing. What do you do when you are sad?
PETS
119. Are you an animal lover?
120. Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet?
121. Is your attitude "Love me, love my dog [cat; potbellied pig]?"
122. Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you
deliberately hurt an animal?
123. Do you believe a person should give up his or her pet if it interferes with
the relationship?
124. Do you consider pets members of your family?
125. Have you ever been jealous of a partner's relationship with a pet?
126. Have disagreements about pets ever been a factor for you in the breakup of
a relationship?
THE MOST INFLUENTIAL PERSON IN MY LIFE... who was yours?
A) Sir Richard Branson - If you don't know who that is it really doesn't matter but he was an interesting man who had a lot to listen to and converse with me on various topics and after that conversation I went in a different direction and business.
B) Leslie Powell, brother of Baden Powell, who started scouts and cubs in England. I met him when I was a kid and he showed me all kinds of pictures from World War I and I was fascinated to hear all of his stories. And he was fascinated that I was fascinated. I was around 14 at the time and I went to visit him every week for many weeks and we talked about all kinds of things. Even showed me some trophies and gave me some memorabilia from World War I later I realize that this man died alone no one really caring about him at all living in the shadow of his famous brother. That is a tragedy all by itself.
C) The executive secretary to the Queen of England. When I created Canada's first online appointment system for tradespeople and customers including international customers I didn't realize the power of the computer until the Queen of England hired me through her secretary. After she tried my system out, my life was never the same after that. Being able to say that I worked for the Royal family repairing properties for them is a pretty big deal. And made me realize that this guy isn't even the limit of what I can do for my customers.I actually have to video testimonials from her. I may put them here somewhere
POLITICS
127. Do you consider yourself liberal, moderate, or conservatives, or do you
reject political labels? What was the attitude in your family about political
involvement and social action?
128. Do you belong to a political party? Are you actively involved?
128. Did you vote in the last presidential election? Congressional election?
Local election?
130. Do you believe that two people of differing political ideologies can have a
successful marriage?
131. Do you believe that the political system is skewed against people of color,
poor people, and the disenfranchised?
132. Which political issues do you care about? (For example, equality national
security, privacy, the environment, the budget; women's rights, gay rights,
human rights, etc.).
133. Has politics ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
I WOULD NEVER EVER... what about you?
Never steal from anyone or try to cheat them but Europe is not the place it used to be. You can't trust most people. It is a shame.
COMMUNITY
134. Is it important for you to be involved in your local community?
135. Do you like having a close relationship with your neighbors? For example,
would you give a neighbor a spare key to your home?
136. Do you regularly participate in community projects?
137. Do you believe that good fences make good neighbors?
138. Have you ever had a serious dispute with a neighbor?
139. Do you take pains to be considerate of your neighbors (for example, keeping
a lid on loud music, barking dogs, etc.)?
CHARITY
140. How important is it to you to contribute time or money to charity?
141. Which kind of charities do you like to support? How much of your annual
income do you donate to charity?
142. Do you feel that it is the responsibility of the "haves" of the world to
help the "have-nots"?
143. Have attitudes about charitable contributions ever been a factor in the
breakup of a relationship?
MILITARY
144. Have you served in the military?
145. Have your parents or other relatives served in the military?
146. Would you want your children to serve in the military?
147. Do you personally identify more with a nonviolent approach, or with making
change through military force and action?
148. Has military service or attitudes about military service ever been a factor
for you in the breakup of a relationship?
THE LAW
149. Do you consider yourself a law-abiding person?
150. Have you ever committed a crime? If yes, what was it?
151. Have you ever been arrested? If yes, for what?
152. Have you ever been in jail? If yes, why?
153. Have you ever been involved in a legal action or lawsuit? If yes, what were
the circumstances?
154. Have you ever been the victim of a violent crime? If yes, describe what
happened.
156. Do you believe it's important to be rigorously honest when you pay taxes?
156. Have you ever failed to pay child support? If so, why?
157. Have legal or criminal issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
MEDIA
158. Where do you get your news (for example, TV news programs, radio,
newspapers, newsmagazines, the Internet, friends)?
159. Do you believe what you read and see in the news, or do you question where
information is coming from and what the true agenda is?
100. Do you seek out media with diverse perspectives on the news?
161. Have media differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
I SPEND MY FREE TIME� How do you spend your free time?
Actually as corny as this may sign Sound, I would like to spend my free time with the person who I will be spending the rest of my life with. Although I'm sure you will have your own special hobbies and your friends that you want to go out with and I understand you need your own time and that's fine but as for the rest of the time I would like to spend it with you or maybe we can build something together that also interests us.
RELIGION
162. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
163. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
164. When you were growing up, did your family belong to a church, synagogue,
temple, or mosque?
185. Do you currently practice a different religion from the one in which you
were raised?
166. Do you believe in life after death?
167. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social,
familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?
168. Do you consider yourself a religious person? A spiritual person?
169. Do you engage in spiritual practices outside of organized religion?
170. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious
beliefs?
171. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?
172. Is spirituality a part of your daily life and practice?
173. Has religion or spiritual practice ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I'M LOOKING FOR IN A PERSON... and you???
Communication is extremely important, as well as affection and chemistry
CULTURE
174. Does popular culture have an important impact on your life?
175. Do you spend time reading about, watching, or discussing actors, musicians,
models, or other celebrities?
176. Do you think most celebrities have a better, more exciting life than you
do? (By the way, if they do, maybe it's because they are living their lives,
while you are watching them live their lives. Are you wasting the opportunity
and gift to live your own life?)
177. Do you regularly go to the movies, or do you prefer to rent movies and
watch them at home?
178. What is your favorite style of music?
179. Do you attend concerts featuring your favorite musicians?
180. Do you enjoy going to museums or art shows?
181. Do you like to dance?
182. Do you like to watch TV for entertainment?
183. Have attitudes or behaviors around popular culture ever been a factor in
the breakup of a relationship?
LEISURE
184. What is your idea of a fun day?
185. Do you have a hobby that's important to you?
186. Do you enjoy spectator sports?
187. Are certain seasons off-limits for other activities because of football,
baseball, basketball, or other sports?
168. What activities do you enjoy that don't involve your partner? How important
is it to you that you and your partner enjoy the same leisure activities?
189. How much money do you regularly spend on leisure activities?
190. Do you enjoy activities that might make your partner uncomfortable, such as
hanging out in bars drinking, going to strip clubs, or gambling?
191. Have leisure time issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
192. Do you enjoy entertaining, or do you worry that you'll do something wrong
or people won't have a good time?
193. Is it important for you to attend social events regularly, or does the
prospect rarely appeal to you?
194. Do you look forward to at least one night out every week, or do you prefer
to enjoy yourself at home?
195. Does your work involve attending social functions? If so, are these
occasions a burden or a pleasure? Do you expect your spouse to be present, or do
you prefer that your spouse not be present?
196. Do you socialize primarily with people from work, or with people from the
same ethnic/racial/religious/ socioeconomic background? Or do you socialize with
a diverse mix of people?
197. Are you usually the "life of the party," or do you dislike being singled
out for attention?
198. Have you or a partner ever had an argument caused by one or the other's
behavior at a social function?
199. Have differences about socializing ever been a factor for you in the
breakup of a relationship?
HOLIDAY AND BIRTHDAYS
286. Which (if any holidays do you believe are the most important to celebrate?
201. Do you maintain a family tradition around certain holidays?
202. How important are birthday celebrations to you? Anniversaries?
203. Have differences about holidays/birthdays ever been a factor for you in the
breakup of a relationship?
TRAVEL / VACATIONS
204. Do you enjoy traveling, or are you a homebody?
205. Are vacation getaways an important part of your yearly planning?
206. How much of your annual income do you designate for vacation and travel
expenses?
207. Do you have favorite vacation destinations? Do you believe it's wasteful to
spend money on vacations to distant places?
206. Do you think it's important to have a passport? To speak a foreign
language?
209. Have disputes about travel and vacation ever been a factor in the breakup
of a relationship?
EDUCATION
210. What is your level of formal education? Is your education a source of pride
or shame?
211. Do you regularly sign up for courses that interest you, or enroll in
advanced-learning programs that will help you in your career or profession?
212. Do you think that college graduates are smarter than people who didn't
attend college? Have disparities in education ever been a source of tension for
you in a relationship, or ended a relationship?
213. How do you feel about private school education for children? Do you have a
limit on how much you would be willing to invest in private school education?
214. Have education levels or priorities ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
TRANSPORTATION
215. Do you own or lease a car?
NO
Would you ever consider not having a car?
216. Is the year, make, and model of the car you drive important to you?
NO
Is your
car your "castle"?
217. Are environmental protection factors, when you choose a
car?
218. Given the availability of reliable public transportation, would you prefer
not to drive a car at all?
219. How much time do you spend maintaining and caring for your vehicle?
I let others take care of it
Are you
reluctant to let others drive your car?
220. How long is your daily commute?
I no longer have one
Is it by bus, train, car, or carpool?
221. Do you consider yourself a good driver?
Yes but you can never let your guard down. You can never assume that everybody knows what they're doing. Especially in France and Italy and probably most of all Hungary.
Have you ever received a speeding
ticket?
222. Have cars or driving ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
COMMUNICATION
223. How much time do you spend on the phone every day?
224. Do you have a cell phone?
yes two
A BlackBerry?
225. Do you belong to any Internet chat groups?
no
Do you spend significant time
each day writing c-mails?
226. Do you have an unlisted telephone number?
no
If yes, why?
227. Do you consider yourself a communicator or a private person?
228. What are the circumstances under which you would not answer the telephone,
cell phone, or BlackBerry?
229. Has modem communication ever been a factor in the breakup of a
relationship?
MEALTIME
230. Do you like to eat most of your meals sitting at the table, or do you tend to eat on the run?
both
231. Do you love to cook?
Only for others
Do you love to eat? 232. When you were growing up, was
it important that everybody be present for dinner?
233. Do you follow a specific diet regimen that limits your food choices? Do you
expect others in your household to adhere to certain dietary restrictions?
234. In your family is food ever used as a bribe or a proof of love?
235. Has eating ever been a source of shame for you?
236. Have eating and food ever been a source of tension and stress in a
relationship? Have they ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
GENDER ROLE
237. Are there household responsibilities you believe to be the sole domain of a man or a woman?
I believe in sharing everything
Why do you believe this?
238. Do you believe that marriages are stronger if a woman defers to her husband
in most areas? Do you need to feel either in control or taken care of?
239. How important is equality in a marriage? Define what you mean by "equality."
340. Do you believe that roles in your family should be filled by the person
best equipped for the job, even if it is an unconventional arrangement?
341. How did your family view the roles of girls and boys, men and women? In
your family; could anyone do any job as long as it got done well?
242. Have different ideas about gender roles ever been a source of tension for
you in a relationship, or the cause of a breakup?
RACE, ETHNICITY, AND DIFFERENCES
243. What did you learn about race and ethnic differences as a child?
244. Which of those beliefs from childhood do you still carry; and which have
you shed?
245. Does your work environment look more like the United Nations, or like a
mirror of yourself? How about your personal life?
246. How would you feel if your child dated someone of a different race or
ethnicity? The same gender? How would you feel if he or she married this person?
247. Are you aware of your own biases regarding race and ethnicity? What are
they? Where did they come from? (We aren't born biased, we learn it, and it's
important to trace where it was learned.)
248. Have race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a source of tension and
stress for you in a relationship?
249. What were your family's views of race, ethnicity, and difference?
250. Is it important to you that your partner shares your vision of race,
ethnicity, and difference?
251. Have different ideas about race, ethnicity~ and difference ever been a
factor in the breakup of a relationship?
LIVING EVERY DAY
252. Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person?
213. Do you judge people who have a different waking and sleeping clock than
you?
254 Are you a physically affectionate person?
255. What is your favorite season of the year?
256. When you disagree with your partner, do you tend to fight or withdraw?
257. What is your idea of a fair division of labor in your household?
258. Do you consider yourself an easygoing person, or are you most comfortable
with a firm plan of action?
256. How much sleep do you need every night?
260. Do you like to be freshly showered and wearing clean clothes every day,
even on weekends or vacations?
261. What is your idea of perfect relaxation?
262. What makes you really angry? What do you do when you're really angry?
263. What makes you most joyful? What do you do when you are joyful?
264. What makes you most insecure? How do you handle your insecurities?
265. What makes you most secure?
266. Do you fight fair? How do you know?
267. How do you celebrate when something great happens? How do you mourn when
something tragic happens?
268. What is your greatest limitation?
269. What is your greatest strength?
270. What most stands in the way of your creating a passionate and caring
marriage?
271. What do you need to do today to move toward making your dream marriage a
reality?
272. What makes you most afraid?
273. What drains you of your joy and passion?
274. What replenishes your mind, body, and spirit?
275. What makes your heart smile in tough times?
276. What makes you feel the most alive?
I dare you to come up with more questions
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